Friday, February 26, 2016

Awesome date night with a YOUNGER MAN!!!

Of course... I happened to be related to him... Little details!

Tonight Bella got an impromptu invite for a sleepover and I took advantage of the opportunity to have some one-on-one time with my favorite sophomore boy.  We went out to supper at Taj Mahal and both agreed its been TOO long since we've had yummy Indian food!  Isaac regaled me with school doings and college prep planning and threw in a few barbs about how awesome he is getting at weight lifting.  Unfortunately, this reminded him of an earlier bet on who could could lift more in a single lift competition.  After topping out at 260 lbs squatting this week, I can safely say he's the winner and I had to pay out for pop all night, curses batman!!!

Then a quick drive for dessert at Culvers (thank you free kid scoop coupons!)  We topped off the night at the movie theater, seeing Deadpool.  I found it hilariously irreverent (but probaby inappropriate, so yes I earned a parent bad mark tonight).  I even managed to bribe Isaac for a selfie-with-a-smile-showing-teeth!!! (only cost me 2 hours of extra internet time, parent bad mark 2 tonight, DOH!)

I sure love this young man, it was the best date I've had in months! :o)






Wednesday, February 24, 2016

My f*ck it list

I read an excellent article the other day that really hit a note.  The premise of the article was the inverse of bucket list items, or to be blunt, the FUCK IT list.  The author detailed out the list of things he wanted to NEVER do again in order to stay authentic to himself and to avoid regrets about his life.  I've included the link to the article, the TedTalk embedded is quite funny as well!  I thought it would be a fun writing exercise to capture my own Fuck it list (man, this is just FUN to say!!!)  I urge you to consider writing your own!

I will NEVER AGAIN: 
  • work after midnight.  Its weird how when I have done this in the past, I oddly want to eat whatever is lying around?  I could literally feel myself turning into a Gremlin... And I felt like shit the next two days.  No more.
  • feel obligated to buy others gifts on specific days.  I'll buy gifts when I damned well feel like it.  The surprise is half the fun!  However... if you are cute, male, single, at least my age... I'll let you buy ME gifts on specific days ;o)
  • watch my weight.  After so many years of battling this, I spent the past 2 years worrying that I'd fall off the bandwagon of good health.  But I think I can say this lesson has been learned and while I occasionally need to course-correct (curse you, tiny christmas cookies), I am content with my level of health and how I look.
  • obsess about being 5 minutes late.  With as much as I try to cram into a day, its inevitable I'll be late to things.  I read recently that optimistic people tend to be late as they overestimate how much they can accomplish in their remaining amount of time.  The more I thought on this, the more I realized I now fall squarely into this category.  And quite honestly, I don't want to change.  So instead, I'll let the parties I'm meeting know ahead of time that our start time is a "window with a margin of error" and not stress about it.
  • feel guilty about swearing.  I know I swear...  A lot.  However, swearing, for me, is just another set of words.  Ones that contain more emphasis than the standard lot.  And I utilize them as a stress decompression mechanism, letting off steam so I don't internally combust.  I find this is more socially acceptable than punching people and my words are rarely directed towards a person.  So consider this my pre-apology for the remaining curse words you will hear in my company.  Fuck is here to stay.  :oP
  • feel guilty about not being perfect ~ a perfect mom, a perfect pet owner, a perfect <insert every other hat I wear>  hmm, there seems to be a lot of self-imposed guilt on this list.  I probably need to talk to my therapist about this?  :o)
  • have Tinder one-nighters.  Similar sentiments to bullet 1, enough said.
  • save vacation for the right time (this summer, next year, retirement, other).  There is never a right time past today, its the only day you are sure you have.  Don't ever forget that.
  • compare my life to someone else's.  Nothing makes me feel crappier than when I do this.  In reality, no one's life is perfect and often its much more imperfect on the inside than we ever get to see.  So I won't dwell in what I don't have.  Instead I'll go create what I want.  
I could write a lot of things I don't ever want to do again...   Now here is to me holding my guns on this list!

Friday, February 19, 2016

Two left feet...

Well its been a long week, TGIF!!!!   Knowing it was going to a stressful February at work, I had the foresight to book a GNO with a girlfriend for this evening.  It was the light at the end of this week's tunnel, a perfect end to my day.  Great company (thank you Sherri!), delicious food down at Batas (who knew blueberries on a burger could taste so scrumdiddlyumptious??) and we finished the evening at CSPC Hall catching The Revelers live in concert!

When I bought the tickets, I had no idea they were so good?!?  Apparently they were nominated for a Grammy this year on their second album, WOOT!  Hey guys, second place at Grammys, but you are still first in my heart!  :o) Their music was a lively blend of Blue Grass, Cajun and Zydeco, which I was unfamilar with, but instantly got me dancing in my seat.   While the music was definitely boogie-worthy and the band invited people to dance, we live in the conservative midwest, so that dance floor  space between stage and audience was barren...

Until about song 4....

Then from the front row arose an elderly couple (easily in their 60s, possibly 70s) who proceeded to dance the REST OF THE NIGHT AWAY!  They were spry and smooth as they sailed around that 10 foot space between the stage and the first row of seats.  You could tell they'd been dancing together for years, it was so fluid it was breathtaking.  I couldn't stop watching them.  It made me realize that I need to augment my Mr. Right  Requirements list.  I want a dance partner, both in life, and on the floor.  He doesn't have to be a great dancer, but he has to have the guts to get up when no one else is and go out on the floor.  I am looking for someone with joie de vivre, joy of living, zest for life.  Someone that matches my level of crazy (and trust me, thats a lot of crazy!)  I'm taking auditions if you have any single dancing-fool friends!!!

After intermission (and some bravery in a bottle of blue moon) I'm happy to report Sherri and I balled up and got up to dance in the second half of the show.  And on my way to the stage, I recruited about 6 other ladies that I had noticed wiggling in their seats during the first half.  By the time that song was halfway through, that 10 foot area had at least 30 people up there dancing and it remained that way the rest of the show.  :o)

Music is meant to be interactive, feel it, BE IT ~ even if you have two left feet!

Tuesday, February 9, 2016

Interview an Engineer - the real one!

So to allow my son the benefit of an alternative perspective, I told Isaac I wouldn't write my answers down to his engineering interview (even though I had already captured a blog post of my answers).  This allowed him the opportunity to interview an engineer he isn't directly related to and who operates in a different capacity in engineering than I do.

Isaac (with interviewee's blessing) was kind enough to share his final product with me for blog consumption.  To protect the innocent, Isaac went to the effort to redact all references to the individual he interviewed prior to sharing.  I have since replaced all his red <REDACTED> statements with "interviewee" for ease of translation (yes, the smart-assed-ness is strong in this one... I'm quite proud.) ;o)

I found both the engineer's answers and Isaac's compilation of the interview well worth sharing, enjoy!

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Project Lead the Way
Principles of Engineering
Professional Interview
Isaac Littler
2-7-16

Introduction
This essay is on the interview of a software engineer at an avionics company. Engineering is a broad career field, and specialization is important, and choosing your specialty is a difficult choice. Interviewing current engineers to get an idea as to what their specialization entails can make this choice easier.
There are three parts to this essay. The professional background gives important contextual knowledge of the interviewee. The professional interview restates the questions asked to interviewee and provides interviewee exact answers. Finally, the personal reflection provides a personal assessment of the interview and its importance in consideration of future career paths.

Professional Background
-redacted-
Professional Interview
In this section, the questions asked to interviewee were restated and interviewee exact answers were transcribed. When asked to describe interviewee engineering field, interviewee said,  “I am a software engineer for a supplier of avionics equipment for civil and military aircraft. The software we produce runs the gamut from safety critical flight controls to mission oriented tactical applications. Over the years I’ve worked on the full range.”
Interviewee title is “Principal Software Engineer.” When asked to describe interviewee particular job and duties, interviewee said, “I’ve been working on Internal Research and Development (IR&D) and Science and Technology (S&T) programs for the last few years. On these programs I’ve worked in small teams or individually to develop and integrate prototype software. I’m considered a Subject Matter Expert (SME) in a few areas and as such, I’ve also had to support business development activities like developing demonstration systems, attending trade shows and conferences, and supporting product road map development.”
Interviewee average work schedule in interviewee words is, “My work schedule is pretty flexible. While the “core” hours of our company are 7:30 am to 4:30 pm, I typically work from about 6 -2:30. I adjust my work hours as necessary to accommodate afternoon meetings or errands I need to run. I try to keep my work down to 40 hours a week to be make time for myself and my family. We’ve recently started to become more “connected” at work, but I try not to let work leak over into my home-life. This is easier for me that some since, I am tend to be an individual contributor, meaning that I’m not responsible for any other employees.”
Interviewee was then asked to describe interviewee educational background.  “I attended a class A high school. There were no college placement classes of any interest to me. I took a basic computer science class and math up to algebra. I then attended ISU first just taking general engineering classes, but deciding on Computer Engineering by the end of the first semester. I took no particular specialized track through the program, but did tend to favor Computer Science classes over Electrical Engineer classes. I worked IT during the summer and staffed a computer lab during the year. I graduated in 4 years with no coops or internships.”
Interviewee thoughts on doing anything differently in relation to career or education were “In college, I worked to get out in 4 years and start working. In retrospect it would have probably have been better to take a bit longer, but gain some more perspective. I should have actively tried for coops/internships at schools outside of interviewee, and likely outside of the aerospace industry. The extra experience would have been helpful even if I ended up back in my current position. I also might have considered working somewhere else after graduation for a while, again to find a different perspective. I might also have stayed in school longer and gotten a master’s degree, possibly in Aerospace Engineering. This mostly goes to just wanting more perspective, but I would like to have gotten a master’s in some technical area. I might also have taken a few business classes. I hate that side of my job and try to avoid it, but it is always useful to have a bit more knowledge.”
Interviewee’s advice for someone aiming for a similar career path was “Don’t focus on a particular area too quickly, try to gain a broad background of knowledge. Being able to pull ideas from different areas is always helpful even if you do end up specializing at a later time. Don’t get wound up too much in schedule and budget, take the time to experiment and do things right the first time. It will pay off in the long run. Software you’ve written will never go away and often you won’t be given the opportunity to go back and fix it.”
The next question was if interviewee was happy with chosen career, responded with “Most days. I’ve mostly never been terribly career oriented and tried to steer my career in a particular direction. I just relied on doing good work to advance. This can mean that I end up doing things I wouldn’t prefer, but I imagine that can happen to anyone. I tend to like things best when I’m interested, actively engaged, and learning something from a project. Beyond that and earning a good paycheck I don’t have any particular career goals.”
When asked if interviewee considered the pay satisfactory interviewee said “Yes. I would prefer more base salary and less incentive pay, but that seems to be standard in the industry particular for higher level engineers. I would also prefer some of the benefits we had when I first started 15 years ago, but again reduction in benefits seems to be an industry trend.”
When asked the importance of mathematics in chosen career path, interviewee replied “Honestly most days not very, but every once in awhile I have to implement something with a heavy mathematical component to it and I have to dig out my text books. The wealth of information on Wikipedia and Wolfram Alpha is amazingly useful as well. I’ve been able to look up things in a few days that took me months when I first started. Mostly what I end up dealing with are coordinate system transformations and input filtering. Being a larger company any of the really heavy lifting in that area is usually assigned to the PhDs and analysts. After that the software engineers need to be able to understand what is going on, but we don’t generally have to do the derivations.”
Interviewee response to the question on if there are any personal characteristics that interviewee considers unique to engineering was “I wouldn’t say any particular characteristic is unique to engineering, but individuals having certain sets of characteristics are more likely to do well at engineering. The first characteristic typically cited would be to be detail oriented. With me this means I have the tendency to focus on the minutia of a problem. This is a very important attribute, but you have to be able to balance it with an ability to step back and see the larger system. When you are seeing the larger system you need to be able see connections between portions of a system and visualize how they interact. Creativity is useful, particularly if you are interested in a designer/architect role. However, the scope of the creativity is different than in other professions. Engineers tend to have a more constrained environment in which to operate. This can be from regulator oversight, company procedures, or other constraints.”
Finally, when asked about the stress the workload causes interviewee responded, “Workload is another thing I try not to let get to me. If I’m working hard on something and it isn’t getting done I usually just say it will get done later. That doesn’t always work, and occasionally I do end up with extra hours or sleepless nights, but not often. The most stressful part of my job the last few years has been the uncertainty caused by the churn and lack of clear direction from senior leadership in the areas I’ve been working. It is hard to be enthusiastic or committed to working on something when you know it may not be what you are working on next month or even next week.”
Interviewee added some additional questions and answers that did not seem particularly relevant but will be included for completeness. “What is your quest? I seek the Holy Grail. What is your favorite color? Magenta. What is the ground speed velocity of an unladen swallow? African or European?” It should be noted that interviewee both asked and answered these questions over email.

Personal Reflection
This interview was very helpful for me, as I have always considered going down a similar path to interviewee. Both my parents work for the same company. It is very interesting seeing the similarities and differences between interviewee job/experiences and my parents'. The hours interviewee works was definitely a surprise to me, as both of my parents tend to work more. I feel that the difference in hours can be attributed to difference in career goals, as he aimed for forty hour weeks. Interviewee is less career focused, and not interested in leadership roles. Interviewee’s advice on gaining background knowledge is definitely something I will consider when signing up for classes in college. The interview in general was very encouraging for me. For interviewee to say that for the most part interviewee can keep work and life separate, and not let the workload get to interviewee, is definitely an important factor in deciding on my career in engineering, particularly software engineering. This helps quell one fear of mine, in that I would not be able to do the same in such a demanding field.

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Putting my money where my mouth is... literally.

So, my credit card company offers some really nice no-cost benefits that I receive without even asking.  One of the things I love (and hate) is their end of year summary report.  They do a quick catalog of all my spending over the past year and itemize all expenses under specific titles.  Groceries, Automotive, Shopping, Travel, Home Improvement, Restaurants....  While the numbers are intriguing all on their own, where these numbers really get informative is when you compare them to previous year spending...

If you've seen my FB feed this last year, you will not be surprised that my Travel direct expenses grew by $1000 this year.  Indirect costs that are impacted by this are Restaurants, Auto (gas), and Misc (dog kenneling costs & race entrance fees as examples).  So the reality is my travel bug probably cost me an additional $3000 this year.

Another shocker in this data?  My 1st world addiction to coffee shops cost me an additional $800 this year.  Darn that easy-reload feature on the Starbucks app!  GRRR!!!

Its not all bad news though.  It appears my Shopping days have settled out a bit as I saw a reduction in this category of over $1500.  Guess I didn't spend my shoe budget after all?  At this point I'm operating on an item in equals an item out.  This entails that I have to part with item(s) to make room for new item(s) which has turned out to be a pretty effective strategy in containing this spend habit.

Well just a few weeks after I sat down and spent some time evaluating this spend data, I worked on my 2015 taxes.   And I was faced with another very real data point.  My charitable donation spending, while it grew from 2014 to 2015, isn't what I feel is remotely appropriate given my salary.

As a Christian, I've always been under the guidance of offering to God his portion:

Every man shall give as he is able, according to the blessing of the Lord your God that he has given you. ~Deuteronomy 16:17


Sunday's sermon reiterated a seed that had already been stirring inside me and my desire to build the "right" house with my resources.  Since my divorce, I had made a plan to work up successively each year to get to tithing level (10%).   With the first year being an adjustment to a single income, there was some perceived financial insecurity.  But if I'm honest with myself, God has significantly blessed me since that event occurred on so many levels, including financially.  

So its time for me to walk the walk and I'll trust that God will provide what I need when I need it.  See you Starbucks, my 2016 money is going to be better spent.